Supporting Information for Participants
The process of navigating through the labyrinth of the Personal Myth can be intense and overwhelming so take the process in parts and phases of reflection. Be creative and document the process with journaling, art, listening to music, performing music, drawing, creative writing and talking to people about your life. I have found the following check-list really helpful in working through the process slowly and in some kind of order. The process is like a spiral – we revisit themes and periods of our lives with new eyes and a new way of seeing with the help of Wisdom and Divine Grace, Spirit and the Holy Mystery.
- Choose your ideal medium for expressing your myth – art, painting, poetry, journaling, podcast, dance, movement, sculpture.
- Identify some of the most significant events in your life in relations to your biological, psychological, social and spiritual perspectives
- Identify some of those foundation relationships in your life: mother, father, siblings and peers. Specify the beliefs that you formed at those times as a result of their contribution or lack of contribution.
- Specify the beliefs you formed about yourself, how you perceive other people in general and experiences, events and situations in your life. Did you form healthy or unhealthy core beliefs?
- As a result of those beliefs what behaviours formed in your personality because of them – judgment, criticism, inferiority, shame, determination, hard-work ethic, maladaptive behaviours, habits, addictions, perseverance, resilience, creativity, expression, withdrawal, rebelliousness.
- Consider the most significant human relationship in your life, past or present. What was it about them that attracted you towards them? How would you describe their personality?
- Consider the most significant spiritually inspiring human relationship you have had?
- Consider the most significant inner relationship with a spiritual or religious incarnation; for example, Jesus Christ, Buddha, Krishna, Mother Mary, Mary Magdalene, John the Baptist, Moses, St Francis of Assisi. When you think of them how do you feel? What characterises their presence when you think, visualise or repeat their holy name?
- Repeat the name of the Presence, God, Holy Mystery or other divine name over and over again more often and with deeper and deeper conviction. Develop your relationship with God, the Presence. Talk to God in the language of your heart to help guide your projects and situations, challenges and tests. Be aware of any inner feelings or intuitive perceptions. How would you describe that presence? How would you describe your relationship with that divine presence within you? How could you cultivate and nurture that relationship with the Presence more in your life? How could you develop this relationship more to help you in your life process and development towards a more healthy and happy life? How could this connection within help you resolve many of the past issues and challenges in your life in the past and present and maybe even help with achieving some present or future goal or project?
- What are your main drives and passions? Where did you feel drawn to serve? What are your gifts? Where they may not have formed, how are they now forming in terms of goals and aspirations?
- What are some of your most significant and moving spiritual experiences and why?
- Which individuals have inspired and driven your life goals? What attracted you towards them? How did they change and influence your life?
- How do you integrate these elements in order to maintain balance, wholeness, equanimity, peace and objectivity and regulation in thinking and emotional wellbeing? Exercise, outdoors, sports, meaningful social, social supportive network, regular and healthy sleep, diet, lifestyle, regulating and moderating habits and attachments, bathing, washing, caring for self, finding fulfilling and meaningful contribution to other people.
The Bio-Psycho-Social-Spiritual Model
Our biological aspect covers a great deal: genetics, environmental factors that affect physiological functioning (pollution, toxic chemicals), behaviours such as relaxation (breathing) and energisation (muscle tensing exercises), smoking, diet and exercise, disease and injury. But more importantly for the Personal Myth work are the biological human instinctual emotional drives that we have in common with other mammals. These include:
- the seeking instinct (curiosity, interest, foraging, enthusiasm, optimism, work, career, purpose, meaning),
- lust instinct (to satisfy reproduction demands),
- rage instinct (triggered when needs aren’t met, when subjected to abuse/neglect, to attain social dominance, to prepare for fight or flight),
- fear instinct (when life or safety is compromised: trauma and survival responses like fight, flight, freeze and fawn),
- panic/grief instinct (separation anxiety, fear of abandonment, loss of significant other, depression, despair),
- care instinct (supporting and caring for others, maternal),
- play instinct (competition, social hierarchy, leadership, organisation, inventiveness, communication, bonding, belonging, strength testing, rule testing, regulates group behaviour)
Our psychological adaptation to life experience through our persona, shadow, relating function, and complexes (maladaptive thinking and self-defeating behaviours).
The social factors that force us to act in the world (culture, tradition, values, laws, education, politics, ideology, political correctness, current affairs and issues, social interactions, youth culture, gender, sex, religious institutions).
The spiritual practices such as prayer, affirmation, energisation, meditation, contemplation that cultivate the personal relationship with God, Spirit, Soul, The Presence.
Power affirmations are used to address the existence of negative and self-defeating beliefs in the conscious and subconscious mind. They are associated more with the superconscious mind (Soul, The Divine Presence, God). Current events and experiences can trigger negative and self-defeating beliefs that were created in the past. Trauma, childhood and relationships can leave scars in the subconscious mind related to perceptions of the self, others and the world. Negative and self-defeating beliefs like these below can create a cycle of self-manifesting unhappiness and lack of fulfilment:
- I am a failure
- No one can love me
- The world is unsafe
A power affirmation establishes the opposite belief to counter the effects of a negative self-defeating belief. The method is simple by just repeating it out loud, then as a whisper and then mentally within. This can be done in the morning, evening and at any point during the day. The duration of a practice like this can be from 10 minutes to half an hour.
Power affirmations are statements of truth. They are of a superconscious nature, positive and highly potent in terms of their ability to not only become part of our conscious mind but also the subconscious mind which sits behind the conscious mind.
Deep-seated negative beliefs and patterns of behaviour about ourselves, other people and the world find power affirmations incredibly life-changing because they rewrite old beliefs and patterns that may have taken hold in your life.
Below you will find a sample guided exercise for power affirmations and a link to an audio file of a guided relaxation and power affirmation exercise.
When you have practised the sample exercise below you can then go ahead and conduct your own ones.
- Sit comfortably with the spine straight.
- Take some long deep and calming breaths.
- Affirm in your mind that you let go of all worldly thoughts and worries for a few minutes.
- Allow a state of relaxation to manifest in this moment.
- Breathe in and tense all the muscles in your body for a count of 5 and then exhale and release and relax the muscles again.
- Repeat this muscle relaxation exercise a few times and then just relax in long deep and slow breaths until the process feels complete.
- Repeat this affirmation out loud: No matter what experiences come…they cannot touch me…I am always happy.
- Repeat this affirmation for about 3 minutes out loud.
- Repeat this affirmation for 3 about minutes as a whisper.
- Repeat this affirmation for 3 about minutes mentally.
- You can extend this exercise for longer if you want to and conclude when the process feels complete.
- End the exercise with just normal conscious breathing and by gently moving and tensing the muscles in order to ground you.
“Father Thou art mine;
Reveal Thyself! Reveal Thyself! Reveal Thyself!”
“I am submerged in eternal light.
It permeates every particle of my being.
I am living in that light.
The Divine Spirit fills me within and without.”
“As I radiate love and goodwill to others,
I open a channel for God’s love to come to me.”
“Heavenly Father, teach me to contact Thee first,
And thus harness my will and activity to the right goal.”
“I know that God’s power is limitless
And I am made in His image.
I too, have the strength to overcome all obstacles.”
“In helping others to succeed I shall find my own prosperity.
In the welfare of others I shall find my own well-being.”
“I am infinite. I am spaceless.
I am beyond body, thought and utterance.
Beyond all matter and mind.
I am Endless Bliss.”
“The eternal life of God flows through me.
I am immortal.
Behind the wave of my mind,
Is the ocean of Cosmic Consciousness.”
“I will reason, I will will, I will act.
But guide Thou my reason, will and activity
To the right thing that I should do.”
“I and my Father are one;
Father Thou art with me.
I command Thy power within me
To cauterise my brain cells of wrong habits and past seed tendencies.”
“I command my brain cells to change.
To destroy the grooves of bad habits
That have made a puppet out of me.
Lord, burn them up in Thy divine light.”
I have peace that surpasses all understanding.